BAD SEXUAL CHARACTERS IN MARRIAGE

Bad characters also have a way of affecting the sex life of any couple. Here are some bad sexual characters you have to avoid. 

1. Sexual Infidelity:- Adultery has become a regular occurrence in our society today. When people begin to nurture the idea that their spouses are not good enough for them in the bedroom. It eventually leads them to seek satisfaction outside. 
Solution:- The truth is women or men are not different. You can get all pleasure you seek outside at home. Condom cannot make sex with strange people safe, safe sex is only found at home. Be content with your spouse and enjoy the presence and blessing of the Lord or safe sex. 

2.  Lust:- This is a burning and passionate desire to have sex with someone who is one's spouse. It involves odd sexual fantasies that eventually consumes its victims. Lust is the mother of all other sexual sins and holds millions of people captive worldwide. 
Solution:- Confess lust as a sin and repent from it. Break contact with situations, people and environment that encourage you to lust. Then fill your heart with the word of God. This is when you can direct all your sexual thoughts and fantasies towards your spouses. 

3. Pornography:- This involves pictures, films that are indecent, unholy and unrighteous. It involves sexual erotic pictures or viewing of the private parts of an opposite sex who is not one's spouse. 
Solution:- Before pornography destroys your life, please destroy it. You may have to stay away from the internet for now. Don't ever permit pornography to hold you captive. It is a bad habit. 

4. Masturbation:- Masturbation is the act of using your hands or instrument made for that purpose to stimulate your sexual organs for sexual pleasure or enjoyment. Many people including worldly pastors may tell you that it is not a sin but they are totally wrong. Masturbation is a sin. It emanates from lust. You cannot masturbate without being lustful. It is not good for your spiritual or marital life. 
Solution:- Deal with lust by avoiding those things that feed your lust. Ask God for help and to confide in someone. Then, surrender yourself for deliverance. 

5. Nudity:- This could be total or partial nakedness. Exposure of little or much area of your organs is a character flaws. 

Solution:- Nudity is an ungodly habit and it is against the commandment of God. Dress up when going out, don't "dress down". Be a woman of God. 

6. Frigidity. This is punishment for your spouse. To be frigid means, you are not sexually attracted to your spouse. Your desire for sex is dead or was never there in the first instance. 
Solution:- Find the root of your frigidity. Either psychological, medical, spiritual or emotional reason could be the cause. See counsellors who will help you before it destroys your marriage. Frigidity is not permitted in the bedroom of married couples. 

7. Nymphomaniac:- An abnormal desire for sexual intercourse on a daily basis or repeatedly at night or day is demonic. It is totally wrong. 
Solution:- Get to the root of this sexual problem. It is not natural, so seek spiritual help. Confess your sins to God and be delivered. 

8. Marital rape:- Sexual addiction leads to forcing oneself on one's wife when she is not positively disposed to it, doing this to your wife can bring about the wrath of God.
Solution:- Talk your wife into making love with you. Don't ever force yourself on her or drug her to have sex with her. It is ungodly. Meet your wife, don't mate her. 

9. Rape:- Sexual addiction can also lead to forcing oneself on any available woman. This is a criminal offence. 
Solution:- Get all sex you desire at home. Never commit adultery. 

10. Prostitution:- This involves an exchange for sex for money, favour or gift. 
Solution:- Sex for favour is demonic, sinful and worldly. 

11. Kiss and tell:- This involves telling people about your sexual relationship with your spouse. This is very common but it is totally childish. 
Solution:- Publicity about sex and sexuality can destroy marriage. Anything that happens between you and your spouse should remain within the four walls of your bedroom. 

12. Myth-controlled sex life:- Wrong beliefs about sex and sexuality can destroy any marriage. 
Solution:- Get the right teaching about sex and deal with all barbaric beliefs.  

13. Sexual Denial:- Deliberately denying one's partner sex is totally wrong and ungodly. (1 Cor. 7:1-5). 
Solution:- You are only permitted to deny your spouse your body during fasting and prayers. Note that fasting for 21days does not means you must not have sex for 21days. You can have sex after breaking your fast, EXCEPT if your fast is a marathon fast. 1 Cor. 7:1-5 don't worry you can't just hold youself. 

14. Self-focused sex:- To be selfish in the bedroom just seeking your own pleasure without giving any to your spouse is selfish. 
Solution:-Seek to satisfy your spouse first and you will end up being satisfied.