it is essential you come to terms with the different stages of
marriage, the challenges involved and how to handle them before you get
married. It is impossible to control what you don’t understand. Take
your time to know the natural stages of marriage and how to handle them.
Every newly wedded couple will experience those stages regardless of
status, race or socio-economical status. Therefore, study these areas to
ensure success in your marriage.
Stage 1- (STARTERS STAGE) AGE 0-5 years
This stage starts immediately you say “I do”, through your honey moon till your marriage clocks. five years. It is the most challenging period. The major issues here revolve around money, sex, time management, in-laws, career, child rearing and understanding each other. You are finally moving from unreal love life to real issues in marriage. Most divorces take place at this stage because it is characterized by:
- Unpleasant discoveries of whom our partner is which could lead to either joyful beginnings or bitter discoveries.
- It is also a time of the unpleasant discovery that marriage is more than sex and romance.
- Disappointment borne from of unmet pre-marital dreams, expectations and fantasies begin to surface
- Display of our true character to the changing of our spouse.
- Pre-marital tantalizing romantic love and intimacy begins to wane.
- Misunderstanding, offences, personality clashes evolve.
- Learning how to spend money together as couple, catering for others financially.
- Balancing marriage and career.
- Learning how to handle all manner of people around the family like in-laws, children, friends, neighbor, helps and children teachers, etc.
- Handling problems associated with pregnancy and delivery.
- Handling problems associated with new born baby.
- Adjusting to sex during pregnancy and after delivery.
- Grappling with the addition of another child and the added responsibilities
- Learning how to handle sex and romance despite our jobs, new born baby and other commitments.
- Demonstrating gender, background, temperamental, academics, denomination, cultural, exposure, culture personality, spiritual, sexual, financial, physical, parental, conception and emotional differences.
- Problems of adjustment in marriage.
- Getting to accept the truth about our spouse weakness and our own inadequacies.
- Learning how to manage conflict in marriage.
- Caring for new born baby, breastfeeding, night feeding, sick baby, crying baby, etc.
- Leaving, cleaving, becoming one flesh and responses of couple’s families to these.
- Mothers-in-law problems, daughter’s in-law’s mistakes, husbands inexperience in handling mother and his wife.
- Handling differences in child care between mother and daughter in-law.
- Resumption after maternity leave and the little baby, crèche, nanny and child care.
- House helps, their problems, couples disappointments about them.
- Choosing elementary school for our children.
- Payment of rent, tuition fees, food and supply.
- Cookings and shopping
- Entering the first season of parenting.
to be continue................
Stage 1- (STARTERS STAGE) AGE 0-5 years
This stage starts immediately you say “I do”, through your honey moon till your marriage clocks. five years. It is the most challenging period. The major issues here revolve around money, sex, time management, in-laws, career, child rearing and understanding each other. You are finally moving from unreal love life to real issues in marriage. Most divorces take place at this stage because it is characterized by:
- Unpleasant discoveries of whom our partner is which could lead to either joyful beginnings or bitter discoveries.
- It is also a time of the unpleasant discovery that marriage is more than sex and romance.
- Disappointment borne from of unmet pre-marital dreams, expectations and fantasies begin to surface
- Display of our true character to the changing of our spouse.
- Pre-marital tantalizing romantic love and intimacy begins to wane.
- Misunderstanding, offences, personality clashes evolve.
- Learning how to spend money together as couple, catering for others financially.
- Balancing marriage and career.
- Learning how to handle all manner of people around the family like in-laws, children, friends, neighbor, helps and children teachers, etc.
- Handling problems associated with pregnancy and delivery.
- Handling problems associated with new born baby.
- Adjusting to sex during pregnancy and after delivery.
- Grappling with the addition of another child and the added responsibilities
- Learning how to handle sex and romance despite our jobs, new born baby and other commitments.
- Demonstrating gender, background, temperamental, academics, denomination, cultural, exposure, culture personality, spiritual, sexual, financial, physical, parental, conception and emotional differences.
- Problems of adjustment in marriage.
- Getting to accept the truth about our spouse weakness and our own inadequacies.
- Learning how to manage conflict in marriage.
- Caring for new born baby, breastfeeding, night feeding, sick baby, crying baby, etc.
- Leaving, cleaving, becoming one flesh and responses of couple’s families to these.
- Mothers-in-law problems, daughter’s in-law’s mistakes, husbands inexperience in handling mother and his wife.
- Handling differences in child care between mother and daughter in-law.
- Resumption after maternity leave and the little baby, crèche, nanny and child care.
- House helps, their problems, couples disappointments about them.
- Choosing elementary school for our children.
- Payment of rent, tuition fees, food and supply.
- Cookings and shopping
- Entering the first season of parenting.
to be continue................
still waiting for the remaining stages... good work here...
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